Do you disguise yourself as low maintenance, believing that the fewer needs you have the more attractive you are? Have you convinced yourself that having needs is weak or shameful?
Well, my friend, you’re not alone. Millions of us have learned to camouflage or ignore our needs to the point of PN: pathological needless-ness! We can’t stop minimizing what we need and are uncomfortable with or do harm to ourselves (or another) to avoid asking for help.
The problem is, we are designed to need each other.
Read moreI knew a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man who she had only recently met and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some $43,000, to be exact. He promised that he would give the money back with interest (along with his abiding love), in two short months.
Read moreSometimes it feels like there is no good time to talk about family and the holidays, especially if you are in a new relationship and you suspect this may be a sensitive subject. While there are countless scenarios for new couples facing the holidays together, here are few guidelines for creatively broaching where you will be spending the holidays as new partners.
Before you even discuss where to spend the holidays:
Read moreWhen was the last time you were at a gathering and someone said how relieved they were that their partner wanted less sex? These days you’re more likely to hear triumphant murmurs about
Read moreHere are some questions to ask yourselves or a potential partner to keep moving you towards the field of fulfillment and love:
Read moreFollowing is a list of questions from my book Hindsight that you want to make sure to ask, ones that will support or add to your non-negotiable list. The more specific the questions, the better. Feel free to add to the list
Read moreLooking for some wisdom and inspiration for the care, feeding and healing of your soul? Look no further. Here are 10 of my all time favorite books on spirit and soul development that I recommend again and again.
Read moreLooking for some wisdom and inspiration to help you navigate your relationships? Look no further. Here are 10 of my all time favorite books on relationships that I recommend again and again.
Read moreDear Anonymous,
Thank you for reaching out and then taking care to clarify things for me. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time! Let’s start with your questions:
Read moreI hear fire engines roaring through the valley where I live. I feel the sense of survival rush through my body and privately hope the rescue crew gets to whoever needs them in time. I send
Read moreThe other day I was at a pharmacy deliberating, of all things, which panty liner I should buy. I know, TMI, but while perusing the fifty million choices I had—wings/no strings/glide/long/short/tall/wide/double-wide, etc.—I spied a CAUTION label on
Read moreWhat if you just let go? Let it all go? All your attachments: your life as you know it, your identity, what you think of other people, of what other people think of you? All the people, places, things, thoughts, feelings,
Read moreThe Greeks had five words to describe the different levels of love: eros, passionate love, essential desire and longing, romantic love; philia, friendship, loyalty; storge, natural affection; agape, selfless giving; and thelema, desire or will to do something. In the English language we
Read moreWhat if I told you you’re perfect exactly as you are? Would you believe me? How could I know if you were perfect, you wonder? I have never even seen you. I don’t know what you look like, how big your nose is,
Read moreThe power of prayer is both ancient and mystifying. Right here in America millions of us subscribe to it every day: “…prayer is a common religious practice…, with nearly six-in-ten adults in the U.S. saying they pray at least once a day.” Still, the rate of non-religious affiliation
Read moreThe sixth truth: your life purpose is your North Star on your journey. The practice: keep your eye on the ball. This truth is about, “What are you doing on the planet? Why are you here?” As you start to understand and realize
Read moreIt’s been said that you are a sum total of the five closest people you hang around. The first time I heard this I was floored. My circle of friends was hardly a dream team. Never mind who those people were—truth is,
Read moreFor me, this has been no easy feat. Up until the spring of 1997, despite having mustered success in many areas of my life, when it came to my mind I mostly believed that what my mind told me was true. If I was afraid, it didn’t hesitat
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