Tell me, why does dropping one’s drawers have to be the line of demarcation? Is that really the point of no return? If so, then why do you consider it as such? My studies of aboriginal Polynesian societies have led me to delve into customs of touching in other nearly nude societies, including those of primates, with whom we share 98% of our DNA. These societies have no drawers to drop, yet raised peaceful, sexually wise kids. So, perhaps your next title should be: What You Should Know Before You Cover Your Wares. :-)

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Angela asked: I have been dating a man for a little over a year who never says "I love you, care about you, etc.” Other than that, he’s OK, I guess. I'm 50, he's 53, it’s almost like we are married but I can't get him to react to my need of…not commitment, but I can't think of the word? Angela, you can’t think of the word because there isn’t one. Commitment is it, and nothing to be ashamed of. What you want to think about is, commitment to what?

Someone once (or twice) said, know thyself. Let’s see; the Oracle of Delphi, Jesus, well, heck, about everybody worth mentioning has some twist on it. Why? Most of us who have been in therapy, read numerous self-help books, etc., are left being mostly acutely aware of what is wrong with us and eventually head back to the barn (what’s familiar). There is only so much we can take. And those of us who hang in there

That would be, because the advice in it has been tested by Maryanne and 28 other experts on love and relationships, with decades of both personal and professional experience, and it's clear that it works. A wise woman learns from others' mistakes...and their successes!

Now, let’s get to work! Some say flirting is harmless: some of those same people would argue that engulfing a penis in one's mouth isn’t sex (we won’t mention names, given the trend to repent) while others insist that the mere thought of indiscretion is cheating. Given our culture’s penchant for bending the English language (and morals) to suit our purposes, wouldn’t it be nice if we had a few less erroneous benchmarks for foul play? Here are a few to consider:

My “Stop, Drop and Roll” technique is my tried and true, all-time favorite method for avoiding Relationship Groundhog Day (the insanity of doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result), which is what we do when we make impulsive, unconscious choices like calling an ex when we know better. Learning this skill is not only effective but, according to scientific studies, developing delayed gratification has been associated with success in all areas of life.

What if your life was perfect? That all paths actually led up the mountain, no matter what choices you made, how much money you had or lost, how many times you were married or had sex, if you cheated or were totally devoted to the same person for 65 years? No matter which way you turned, a hundred or a thousand times, it all led to the same place? What if enough was what you already have?

Dear readers and listeners, I was so touched by this story by Kent Nerburn I want to share it with you.

The Cab Ride

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes, I walked to the door and knocked. “Just a minute,” answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened.